Do you find that you push your kids to be independent...?

With my daughter everytime she learned something new, I loved it. It was something less for me to do... I taught her to do things really early.. to put on her shoes and brush her own hair... etc...

With this baby though, I am still pregnant, but I am feeling the opposite, like I want to stretch the baby and toddler years out more....

Did anyone else encourage their firstborn to be independent, especially single mom's?

Do you find that you push your kids to be independent...?

I'm a single dad, and have a good relationship with my (now adult) daughter. Raising her got tough in the teenage years because I was looking to protect her while she was fighting for independance. It gradually eased up as she got older, but I must agree that a child should go to college far enough away that he/she can't come home every weekend. We appreciated each other a lot more after a couple of years, and she was much better equipped to deal with life. When I look at other families and at the one I came from, there does seem to be a signifigant difference with the first one. You're asking about a mother's feelings though, and I can only suggest. Could it be the excitement of the first is how he/she develops, and the reluctance to part with later ones is the realization of how short a time they are your babies?

Do you find that you push your kids to be independent...?

i have encouraged and gently pushed both my girls to be independent, the youngest didn;t need much pushing, shes just like me...my 9 yr old on the other hand would prefer to let us do everything for her.

Do you find that you push your kids to be independent...?

I am not a single mom but I feel like I pushed both of my kids to be idependant.

I have a 13 year old and a 7 yr old. I keep telling the 13 yr old about life and the 7 yr old safty issues. More to both but I wont bore you.

I wanted both of them to stay babies but wanted them to grow up. I cant wait for their weddings but wish they were still able to fit in a highchair.

We can't have both.

Do you find that you push your kids to be independent...?

not a single mom but yes i've done the same thing my daughter 13 and very Independent where as my son who is 11 is not. is it a gender thing or my hang ups? not sure but i do notice a difference.

Do you find that you push your kids to be independent...?

I too am pregnant with #2, and have an independent 3 year old girl.

I don't think I pushed her to be independent, but I didn't exactly hold her back either. She came to me from her bedroom, just the other day in a completely different outfit she had on before. I didn't know she could change her clothes by herself, but she was SOOOO proud of herself, that I praised her immensly %26amp; silently thanked God that it was one less thing I had to do in the mornings.