Question about "letting your hair down"?

This is going to turn into a few different questions since it is a wide open topic.someone on another question mentioned mothers needing to "let their hair down" once in a while.Thats well and fine but how about when a man wants to let his down and go out and just forget things that are going down around him? sometimes he is looked on as a posible cheater or a drunk or called immature because he is out with his friends or just out by himself.Why is it more acceptable for a woman to go out without her spouse than for a man to do it once in a while? Why do women think that because they are a housewife and tend to the kids all day that their job is tougher than any males job(s)? Sorry ladies but I would give up both my jobs in a heart beat to stay home all day to tend a house.Atleast sometimes you can do things at your convenience.most employers do not allow this attitude.A male can leave work and has to come ome to a "honey do" list and gets bitched at when it goes neglected.what gives?

Question about "letting your hair down"?

Um, another man sees the light. But if you are looking for fairness, don't find it at home. Don't forget the line: you will do it because you love me.

So don't argue. Just do it. As always, we have to be responsible for our actions and that's the guideline set for ourselves.

And in the mean time, follow the motto: Act dumb fat and happy. Don't let them know that we know.

Question about "letting your hair down"?

Wow! Really could not agree with you MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Women just like to bit** no matter how good they have it.

Question about "letting your hair down"?

Ummm i go to ballgames and do other sports related things (thats what i like) with friends and i never get grief.

People need hobbies and things to do (that do not involve having sex with other people) outside of eachother.

Sounds like you got quite the gem of a wife

Question about "letting your hair down"?

If you've given your wife any reason to doubt you, then that's on you.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with having a drink with some friends after work.

And if you and your wife have a good relationship, good communication, and trust one another then it shouldn't be an issue for you either.

Question about "letting your hair down"?

My husband has been in the business world and had drinks after work and I was jealous I can't be there as we have a 3 year old to put to bed and then I have to get her ready early in the morning before I go to work. Those evenings out with the co-workers eventually led to him having an affair. If I ever suggested going out for a drink without him ever (before or after his infidelity) he would have been beside himself. It is true that if you are reasonably attractive in a bar, someone or someones will be draw to hit on you. I think the answer is to make time to let your hair down with the one you love. Both jobs are stressful and both of you need a break. Before marriage and kids didn't you go out and drink and have fun with your wife and all of your friends???? I think the problem today is we leave our spouses behind when we should be spending more $$$$ on babysitters.

Question about "letting your hair down"?

Because we live in a femine society now. The femine movement was complety blown out of control. Sure I think women should have the same rights as men and to be considered as equal citizens, but men and women have different roles in the world. We lost that with this movement. Women's attitudes today are they are queens and should be taken care of emotionaly, they should feel needed, wanted, and loved at all times and even though they say they DON'T want to be take care finacally they secretly want their man to do that to, but God forbid they say that out loud because then someone might think they need a man. I am basicaly just saying that men have needs to but nowdays I feel men's needs get ignored. Men want to feel needed wanted and all the above mentioned. I think men deserve a guy's night out just the same as a women does.

Question about "letting your hair down"?

You raise some valid points.

I think that if you would like to stay home all day and tend a house, you should. Marry a woman who wants to work and be a house husband.

For myself, personally, I need a change of environment once in a while. We all do. People who work get that. Just because the environment isn't as pleasant as we'd like doesn't mean it's not at least something different. Women (and men) who stay home with kids don't get that very often, if ever.

If the only contact I had was with people who couldn't pronounce "Shakespeare" let alone discuss it, I would go bonkers.

Question about "letting your hair down"?

Its biology. Women are programmed to spend their lives with a partner and to raise and nurture kids. Men are programmed to seek out multiple partners to reproduce sexually as much as possible to ensure his genetic code survives. This was all put into us back when we were wanderers and children frequently didn't survive birth or infancy. A male's job was to reproduce as much as possible and a woman's job was to devote herself to the care of the children ( including finding a provider). Both men and women fulfilling their roles was necessary to the very survival of the species.

Fast forward a few million years and we have a problem. Society deems that males and females should find a life mate and be faithful. Unfortunately, you can't fight evolution all the time. People make mistakes. Men give in to the urges when they shouldn't and have sex outside of their relationships. Women get hurt and insecure and have sex outside their relationships to try to find a stable mate to provide for her and her offspring.

Both men and women need time to go out and be individuals, to release stress and relax and recharge. Men get a bad rep because of their weakness to biological programming.

As far as jobs..welll.... It is difficult for a man to work and provide for a family. It is aslo difficult for a woman to care for her family and essentially live at work..24/7. Men tend to think its easier at home because few have been there and understand the pressure, lonliness, stress, exhaustion and loss of individuality when society values the individual and praises visible success.

Women tend to think its easier on a man because they can leave work at a set time and don't have to be on the job 24/7.

This is not something that will change any time soon. Even though both men and women work, cheat, etc, the truth is that in most families it is the woman that bears the brunt of childcare and housework.

Its all about a lack of understanding and societal pressure. Women don't understand where men come from, men don't understand where women come from. Society changes what evolution has been doing for centuries and we all end up thinking that something is wrong and that the grass is greener where the other sex grazes.

Question about "letting your hair down"?

I suppose that I agree with you. A good relationship should be based on equality and reciprocity, in all matters.

Question about "letting your hair down"?

What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Tit for Tat, and all the other cliches.

These things should be worked out in any relationship and neither partner should have precedence for "Hair Down" activities over the other.

Old Guy